Still struggling to explain Ramadan to your kiddies?
Try the following lecture:
Ramadan for the Youth by Abu Taubah
Too late to listen to this lecture?
No, I don’t think so. We all need a “pick me up” and we all need to be constantly reminded.
The main point of the lecture is how to maximise the benefits of Ramadan. It has some good points that I haven’t come across before (e.g. how some of the weak ahadeeth encourage one to be lazy).
Making the Most of Ramadan by Abu Usamah Adh-Dhahabi
One of my friends (you know who you are) just sent me this wonderful article.
We only have 12 days of Ramadan left so we need to squeeze them for all their worth.
Turn your Regular Activities into Acts of Worship
Beware of slacking in acts of worship during the Month of Ramadan
by Sheikh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-’Uthaymeen, may Allah have mercy upon him.
All praise is due to Allah, much blessed praise. I bear witness that no one has the right to be worshipped except Allah alone having no partners.
And I bear witness that Muhammad is His Slave and Messenger. Allah sent him with the guidance and the religion of truth, aided him against his enemies and thus he vanquished them with a severe vanquishing. So all the praise is for Allah, the Lord of all that exist and may peace and blessings be upon our Prophet Muhammad, his family, companions and all those who follow them in goodness until the Day of Judgment.
As for what follows:
O Mankind: How many of a people wish to reach the Month of Ramadan but do not reach?!
How many of a people were thinking about fasting Ramadan but did not get the chance to fast it?!
How many a people are in their grave(s) depending upon their deeds, incapable of adding a single good deed to his good deeds or able to diminish a single evil deed from his evil deeds?!
But you, Allah has favored you to reach this virtuous month, therefore take advantage of it by doing righteous actions that draw you closer to Allah! Seize this happening with a good intention and sincerity to Allah, ‘azza wa jall, and properly following His Messenger, sallahu ‘alayhi wasallam.
O Muslims! Indeed many of the people are (very) heedless in this Month. They spend their nights in senseless matters that do not contain any benefit in them. Rather, these matters could quite well be detrimental for them. They loiter around in the market places waiting for suhoor (pre-dawn meal) until when the time for suhoor comes; they eat and may even over sleep the fajr prayer. As regards their day(s), majority of them are spent sleeping. They don’t benefit from them. And this, by Allah, is (without question) bereavement. Certainly, this time period, rather this magnificent season is for gain and profit; the individual seizes this opportunity to get closer to Allah, ‘azza wa jall.
For indeed, the successful one is him who is able to turn habits into worship and the neglectful one turns his acts of worship into habits. (TN: May Allah help us!!!) The successful one has the ability to turn his regular activities into acts of worship.
Depressing, isn’t it? Almost makes you want to cry, huh?
Okay, let’s put it another way:
Half of Ramadan is still left!
I was so busy berating myself the last few days for my not-so-great Ramadan that I almost missed the fact that I STILL had a chance to make it an awesome Ramadan.
The days that are gone are GONE. There’s no point in moaning and groaning about them.
Don’t think about the past that you can’t change, think of the future that you CAN.
We’re all still alive so we still have a chance to increase in our good deeds. And we still have about 2 weeks left to make a difference (and Laylatul Qadr hasn’t come yet.)
I remember Ramadan 2008. My first 20 days were soooooooooooooooooooooooooooo bad. I wasn’t feel well so I felt like sleeping the whole day.
The last ten days though were a different story. They were wonderful. I even got to do Itikaaf for 4 days.
So, come on. We all need to wake up. Otherwise, it’ll be Shawwal soon.
What about working on the following small (attainable) goals:
[Remember: We want to keep this going BEYOND Ramadan]
1) Improve the quality of our salah (and quantity as well).
2) Increase our time with the Quran (recitation, some tafsir and maybe some hifdh as well)
3) Give in charity and help the poor
4) Increase in dua (supplication) and istighfar
5) Try to be well-mannered (smile, control our tongues, try to help others, etc)
Oh and we try to avoid sinning, of course.
Yes, these are very simple goals but:
1) Simplicity is always the key.
2) Complicated does not equate to greatness
3) How many of us are regular in doing these “simple” deeds?
I think it’s best to live from (fard) prayer to prayer. So, first we work on that prayer and then we try to do as much of Nos. 1-5 as we can before we reach the next prayer.
What do you think?
So, let’s get going!
PS. Sorry about the lack of teensie-weensie reminders. I’ll post one tomorrow, insha-Allah.
Yes, the title made me laugh too.
You’ll have to read the article to read what he meant. That’s even funnier.
by Muhammad Alshareef
Sahl Ibn Sa’d radi Allahu anhu narrates that RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said:
“In Jannah, there is a gate called Ar-Rayyan: a door which the Saa’imoon will enter from, no one else except them. It will be announced, ‘Where are the Saa’imoon?’ and the Saa’imoon will stand. No one except them will enter from the gate called Rayyan.”
Have you ever heard of a weekend warrior? They are employees who sit in cubicles and relax at a coffee station, weighed down with donuts all week long. Then on the weekend, they rip off their suits bearing their Reebok gear underneath and spend the entire weekend playing basketball, hang gliding, and mountain climbing. What happens? They break their knees, pull a dozen muscles, and are hospitalized on Monday.
Yes, I know. You read the title and thought: “WHY is talking about this subject on her blog???”
A question to you: Why SHOULDN’T I be talking about this subject on my blog?
1) This blog is supposed to tackle all the issues surrounding fasting and Ramadan.
And believe me, masturbation is an issue that keeps coming up when people discuss Ramadan.
2) Many people are ignorant of the ruling on masturbation (it’s prohibited by 99% of the scholars).
I was teaching in class once and this issue came up. One of my students asked me if there was an expiation (kaffarah) for masturbating in Ramadan. I was quite surprised by the question and I didn’t have the answer so I said that I would get back to her. So I did and I found the answer.
3) Many people are too shy to ask about such matters.
Allah is not shy of the truth so I wonder why we are?
It’s interesting that there so many people out there who will never discuss these sorts of issues under the pretext of “piety” or “modesty” yet they don’t feel shy spending the whole day backbiting about others. Where did their shame go?? [And yes, I have personally seen many people do this.]
If one is ignorant about a matter, then one needs to ask. Why? Because otherwise one of two things may happen:
1) Making the haram halal
2) Making the halal haram
So ignorance leads people to getting confused about what is lawful and what is prohibited.
Another reason that people don’t want to ask about such sensitive issues is because they don’t want people to scream at them:
“You did WHAT in Ramadan? Don’t you know that it’s HARAAM? Do you want to go to HELL?”
After two years of teaching, I’ve realised that many people want to be able to tell those with some knowledge about their problems or ask sensitive/ embarrassing questions, without being judged or screamed at.
Some might say: “Okay, this stuff is important but is it befitting that a woman talks about such matters?”
Well, I would suggest that you read the chapter on Tahaarah (Purification) in Saheeh Al-Bukhari and Saheeh Muslim. You’ll be surprised at some of the personal stuff narrated by the wives of the Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam).
They didn’t do it because they liked it rather they did it because they had a duty.
So, I’m just doing this as a duty. Perhaps someone will benefit from this information.
Remember: There is nothing sick about informing people about the rulings of the shariah.
Here are two links which are enough for those who want to know more:
1) All the fatwas from Islam QA related to this issue: http://www.islamqa.com/en/search2/masturbation/AllWords/t,q,a
2) A brother has collected various articles on this issue. It’s a good collection especially for those who are trying to cure themselves of practicing this habit: http://ibnalhyderabadee.wordpress.com/2006/09/28/masturbation-in-islam-compilation-of-articles-and-fatwas/
Note: This issue is not just related to men. Sadly, many woman are also involved in it.
Comments are closed for this post. You never know if there are any sickos loitering around.
[Okay, a little apology before I begin. It seems that some people really liked the last couple of reminders. However, one should not have high expectations for every post.
This is going to be a simple, possibly drab post and might be more negative as compared to the earlier ones. I say what I have to say and I'm not going to go out of my way just to please any readers who might be expecting great posts.]
[A note: I haven't added any references for some of the things that I've mentioned because: 1) It's already late and I'm tired and 2) These things are well-known. However, if you want the references then please feel free to ask because it is your right to do so.]
So, we’ve finished 8 days of Ramadan now (less if you’re in other countries).
Is it just me or does that sound like far too much considering the fact the Ramadan seemed to start just yesterday?
I had all these high aims but the first week of Ramadan has been a disappointment for me. I didn’t do all the things that I set out to do. Perhaps some of you might have the same issue.
So, what do we need to do?
We need to check and see what we did do, what we didn’t do, and what we need to do in the next 21-22 days.
If you’ve skimmed my blog, you might have noticed a category that states “Ramadan: Month of…”. There are lots of subcategories below that.
So, insha-Allah, I thought I would review our Ramadan in the context of these subcategories:
[Note: the subcategories are in alphabetical order but my list is not.]
[I'm just going to list a whole lot of questions that we need to ask ourselves.]
Some people may ask: “Maintain one’s fast in the face of sins? What do sins have to do with fasting? Fasting is about not eating or drinking.”
And this is why you will find many Muslims fasting the whole of Ramadan, only to find that they are the SAME people in Shawwal as they were in Shaban. Why? Because they thought fasting = not eating or drinking.
Here’s an article about this issue that we should all read:
[Here’s a very interesting excerpt:
“Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
As for the thing from one which must abstain when fasting, perhaps you will be surprised if I tell you that the thing from one which must abstain when fasting is sin. A person must abstain from sin when fasting because this is the primary aim of fasting, because Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Observing As-Sawm (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”
A friend of mine (you know who you are) sent me a cute flyer about Ramadan yesterday.
Here it is:
[Note: They've shown a drawing of a hand using the dhikr beads (masbahah). One should know that there is an ikhtilaaf (difference of opinion) over the permissibility of using these beads. Some scholars said that they were haram because it was an imitation of the Christians and their rosaries (and a Hindu lady told me that Hindu priests use them as well!). Other scholars said that it was disliked, while others permitted it especially if one had difficulty doing the tasbeeh with one's hands. (This is what I recall. Please correct me if I'm wrong).
(I personally follow the opinion that they are not permitted but I have to be fair and tell you the other opinions so that you can do more research.)
Firstly, the sunnah is to use the hands. The few ahadeeth that seem to imply otherwise are weak.
Secondly, one should always strive to avoid doubtful areas.
Thirdly, if you're really old and you have difficulty using your hands to count, then why not use those counter thingies? At least this way you won't be imitating the Christians (and the Hindus).]
[Click on the image to enlarge its size.]