Project “Recover Ramadan” – Step 3: Realise that you aren’t the only one in this boat
[Side note: Would you mind filling out the poll on my tafsir blog? Jazakumullah kheira.]
Which boat, you ask?
– The Boat containing those who have trouble sustaining their Ramadan spirit.
– The Boat containing those whose iman goes up and down like a yo-yo.
– The Boat containing those who struggle daily to follow this great religion.
– The Boat containing those who have lots of problems.
You get my point.
I’ve noticed that many sisters* who’ve come to me with their problems seem to think that their problems are unique.
[*I keep mentioning sisters because I interact with sisters obviously, not with the brothers.]
And they’re quite surprised that I’m unsurprised at their problems (usually related to their iman). And I’m surprised that they’re surprised that I’m unsurprised at their problems.
Why? Because I’ve noticed that everyone has similar problems. I’ve yet to come across a completely unique issue.
And it struck me that this is Shaytan’s plan: divide and conquer. He makes a person feel as if he or she is the ONLY loser on this planet with this problem and shames him/her to a point where he/she:
– Feels ashamed to ask for help.
– Thinks that there is no solution.
– Feels that he/she is the biggest sinner in the world and nobody has done what he/she has done.
Now don’t misunderstand what I’m saying. I’m not asking you to feel happy that everyone has problems sustaining the Ramadan routine, for example. It doesn’t matter if everyone failed to sustain it. We’ll all still be questioned by Allah about why we could do these acts of worship in Ramadan and not outside of it.
What I AM trying to say is: you are not the only who has this problem. We are all in the same boat. And, insha-Allah, we’ll all work together to solve this problem.
[Sorry, this post was longer than the last one.]