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October 23, 2010


Some common (but very dangerous) mistakes that many Muslims make – Part 1

by Umm Muawiyah

Assalamu Alaikum.

Well, I’ve wanted to talk about some of these for a long time so I thought I’d start today.

Just a few points:

a) I’m presenting them randomly, not necessarily in the order of importance.

b) Today is a new day, insha-Allah. What that means is that my blog will (hopefully) start to resemble my course notes a lot more i.e. it will be packed with evidence (from the Quran and the authentic ahadeeth). Unfortunately, I haven’t been doing that on the blog, which goes against my own principle of “Either talk with proof, or else shut up”.

It also goes against my famous saying, “Anybody can talk but not everybody can talk with proof.”

So, I hope to rectify this starting from today, insha-Allah.

c) The proofs are there to show that the act is in fact a big sin, not to show that many Muslims commit that sin.

So, what are the common mistakes that many Muslims make today?

1) Committing one of the seven destructive sins.

[No, they’re not the same ones that the Christians keep moaning about.]

Narrated Abu Huraira: The Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam) said, “Avoid the seven great destructive sins.” The people enquire, “O Allah’s Messenger! What are they? “He said, “To join others in worship along with Allah, to practice sorcery (magic), to kill the life which Allah has forbidden except for a just cause, (according to Islamic law), to eat up Riba (usury), to eat up an orphan’s wealth, to give back to the enemy and fleeing from the battlefield at the time of fighting, and to accuse, chaste women, who never even think of anything touching chastity and are good believers.” [Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Volume No. 4, Hadeeth No. 28]

Now, someone might say: “Well, none of these are common!”

I beg to differ.

a) Shirk (joining partners with Allah) comes in many forms e.g. Shirk in Intention, Shirk in Supplication, Shirk in Love, Shirk in Fear, Shirk in Obedience, etc. Unfortunately, many people think that shirk just means prostrating to an idol. However, it is not limited to that.

An advice to all of you: If you wish to understand tawheed (worshipping Allah alone), then you will not be able to do so until you have understood shirk. Why? Because a thing is understood by its opposite. For example, a person cannot truly understand success until he has seen failure, or  one cannot truly understand light until he has seen darkness.

b) Black magic is common in MANY countries. It seems that many people do not realise that this is something that can expel a person from the fold of Islam e.g. if it involves calling to the jinn (which it does in many cases).

c) I don’t think I even need to say that killing is common these days.

d) Riba (interest)……sigh. Okay, quick. How many people do you know that do not use credit cards at all?

Now, you might say that a person might be using credit cards without paying riba (because they always pay on time).

Right. Just a little question: Isn’t there a little clause in the contract that states that you agree to pay interest if you pay late? That is a forbidden clause.

Also, if you use these cards, you’re pretty much helping this system. I remember one of my teachers once referred to them as “a cancer”. How true.

And how truly sad it is that many Muslims continue to shamelessly use them under the guise of “necessity” (did they even TRY to find an alternative??) when there are so many Quranic ayaat and ahadeeth that warn us of the severity of indulging in any form of riba.

e) What about the orphan’s wealth, you ask? Well, yes. There are people embezzling their wealth all the time! [And they don’t just stop with the orphan’s wealth. They embezzle everybody’s wealth.]

f) Well, judging by how cowardly we are today, I don’t think we’ll manage to even get to the battlefield for us to flee from it…

g) Ah, my favourite one. Accusing chaste women. You know how it goes, don’t you?

Location: One of those useless dinner parties at some useless person’s house.

Conversation is between 2 or more useless women.

Useless Woman #1: “You know….I heard that [insert poor innocent girl’s name here] may…you know…might have a friend….Not that I like to spread rumours….” [Of course, you sweet demon. You don’t spread rumours.]

Useless Woman #2: “Oh, what have you heard…..?” [Thanks for enjoining good, Aunt Useless.]

Useless Woman #3: “Tell us. I mean, we won’t tell anyone.” [Apart from the whole wide world, of course.]

Useless Woman #1: “Well, [insert foolish gossip monger’s name here] told me that [insert poor innocent girl’s name here] might have a American boy that she wants to marry.” [Why are the boys always American? What about Nigerian? What about Nicaraguan? What about Tasmanian?]

Useless Woman #2: “Aaah. THAT is why she is not married yet!” [Or perhaps it’s because she didn’t like any of the boys that you presented to her? Just a thought.]

Useless Women #3: “I always had a feeling that there was someone. Even though she pretends that she is religious. I could see it coming.”

Useless Woman #1: “Now that you mention it, I remember her telling us once about how she liked American food. I should have been more alert.”

And no, I’m not joking. This is how they talk. How do I know? Trust me, it’s a long story.

2) Not cleaning oneself properly after answering the call of nature.

Sorry but it’s true. Many Muslims do have this problem as evidenced by the state of the toilets in the malls and other places! [Unfortunately, we also witness this in Hajj and in Ramadan.]

The Messenger of Allah (salallahu alaihi wasaalam) said: “Most of the torment of the grave is because of urine.” [Saheeh Ibn Majah, Hadeeth No. 348. Graded “saheeh” by Al-Albani in Saheeh Sunan Ibn Majah.]

“Because of urine” meaning that person let it spill on his clothes. The proof is in the following hadeeth:

Narrated Ibn Abbas: Once the Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam) went through the grave-yards of Madinah and heard the voices of two humans who were being tortured in their graves. The Prophet said: “They are being punished, but they are not being punished because of a major sin, yet their sins are great. One of them used not to save himself from (being soiled with) the urine, and the other used to go about with calumnies (Nameemah).” Then the Prophet asked for a green palm tree leaf and split it into two pieces and placed one piece on each grave, saying: “I hope that their punishment may be abated as long as these pieces of the leaf are not dried.” [Saheeh Al-Bukhari, Volume No. 8, Hadeeth No. 81]

To be continued…
3 Comments Post a comment
  1. Your sister in faith
    Oct 23 2010

    Jazak Allah! Trust me, this is awesome! May Allah reward you for doing this great work – Ameen. You may not be getting a lot of feedback, but THERE ARE people who love you for the sake of Allah. (And I am one of them).

    • Umm Muawiyah
      Oct 24 2010

      Wa Alaikum Assalam Sister.

      Wa iyaaki.

      Jazakillahu kheira for your kind words and the encouragement. And it’s okay about the lack of feedback. Nice comments like yours are enough to last a long time (okay, “long time” according to the standards of us women, which as we all know is not very long!).

      May He, for whose sake you love me, love you.

  2. Ayaz
    Apr 21 2016

    Thank you for sharing knowledge and may allah reward you! Ameen


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