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December 11, 2010


The confusion that many people seem to be under today…

by Umm Muawiyah

Assalamu Alaikum.

What’s the confusion?

Well, let me see. Many people seem to think that striving for this world is AMAZING, AWESOME and such a GREAT thing to do.

Want a PhD? Go for it, they say.

What if you have no life in the meantime? Ahhh, they say, no pain, no gain.

Want to become a manager? Yes, aim high, they say.

What if you end up staying at the office late at night and neglecting your family? Well, you know, they say, look at the financial situation these days. You need to support your family and send your kids to good schools.

Want to become the best student? YES, they say.

What if that means giving up all the fun stuff? Listen, they say, that can wait. For now, you need to give whatever you have in order to reach the top.

Want to break Roger Federer’s record of 16 grand slams and become the greatest tennis player ever? Whoa, you are da man, they say.

What if that means that you have to keep traveling around the world to tournaments and have to limit all social activities? Ahhh, they say, you can do all the hard work now and enjoy yourself after retirement.

Want to be great in the sight of Allah and go to Al-Firdaus (the highest level of Paradise)?

Complete silence.

Ermm…yeah, you could aim for that, some of them say. [The rest have fainted, you see. They were shocked at your low standards and at how unambitious you are. After all, you want to be a mutawwa / mullah? Yuck.]

What if it means giving up the joys of this life?

WHAT, they scream??? Why are you being so strict with your Islam, huh? Why are you so religious and so rigid? You’re so young! Don’t you want to have any fun???

Hold it.


It’s okay for me to give up my life in order to achieve the worldly ambitious which will not benefit me in the hereafter but it’s not okay to “give up my life” (according to your definition of life anyway) in order to achieve lasting happiness in the best of places?


To all those that think this way, I just have three words for you:


Where are the people who encourage others to strive for the hereafter at any cost?And what is stopping us from being of those?

Why do we always stop people from being better slaves of Allah? Are we that infatuated with this life that we’ve lost all reason?

Am I in a lousy mood today, you ask? You’d better believe it.

I’m sick of meeting people who constantly encourage me to be less religious.

My eyes are just waiting for the day when it gets to see just ONE person who finally encourages me to obey Allah at all costs.

Just one. That’s all, I ask.

Just one.

2 Comments Post a comment
  1. Jasmina
    Dec 12 2010

    Dear Sister, prophet Nuh (Peace be upon him) was made fun of for building an ark in the middle of the desert. But Nuh knew what was coming and saw the end in sight and realised who will be truly laughing in the end.
    Conclusion: we know who will truly laugh in the end. Keep continue with your work… i am learning a lot from you. Barakaallaahu fee.

    • Umm Muawiyah
      Dec 12 2010

      Assalamu Alaikum Sister.

      Jazakillahu kheira for your encouragement.

      Yes, we know who will be laughing at the end. It will be the believers and I hope that I’m one of them, insha-Allah. These kind of people just put me in fear of losing my religion.

      See, these people that I was referring to were not the disbelievers nor the non-practicing Muslims. I was actually talking about people who regularly attend Islamic classes or teach Islamic classes or run Islamic centres or run Islamic programs, etc. These are the supposedly “religious” ones of their communities.

      On one hand, they ask people to follow Islam. On the other hand, they ask women to remove their niqabs, don’t have issues with free mixing or putting their children in non-Muslim mixed schools, don’t have problems with women traveling without a mahram (this is a major sin, by the way), etc.

      So, to them, being “rigid” with these issues (which are all part of Islam) makes one “strict”. What really gets to me is their double standards.


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