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March 17, 2011

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Seriously Short Reminder No. 15: Make things easy for people…

by Umm Muawiyah

Assalamu Alaikum.

…. and don’t make things difficult.

أن أبا هريرة قال : قام أعرابي فبال في المسجد ، فتناوله الناس ، فقال لهم النبي صلى الله عليه وسلم : دعوه وهريقوا على بوله سجلا من ماء ، أو ذنوبا من ماء ، فإنما بعثتم ميسرين ، ولم تبعثوا معسرين .

Narrated Abu Hurairah (radiallahu anhu): A Bedouin stood up and started urinating in the masjid. The people caught him but the Prophet  (salallahu alaihi wasallam) ordered them to leave him and to pour a bucket or a tumbler of water over the place where he had passed the urine. The Prophet then said, “You have been sent to make things easy and not to make them difficult.” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume No. 1, Hadeeth No. 219]

[Subhan Allah, just reflect over the noble character of our Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam) and how kindly he dealt with a man who urinated in his masjid!]

يسروا ولا تعسروا ، وسكنوا ولا تنفروا

Narrated Anas bin Malik (radiallahu anhu): The Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam) said, “Make things easy for the people, and do not make it difficult for them, and make them calm (with glad tidings) and do not repulse (them ).” [Sahih Al-Bukhari, Volume No. 8, Hadeeth No. 146]

أن رجلا مات فدخل الجنة . فقيل له : ما كنت تعمل ؟ ( قال فإما ذكر وإما ذكر ) فقال : إني كنت أبايع الناس . فكنت أنظر المعسر وأتجوز في السكة أو في النقد . فغفر له

Hudhaifa (radiallahu anhu) reported Allah’s Messenger (salallahu alaihi wasallam) as saying: “A person died and he entered Paradise. It was said to him: What (act) did you do? (Either he recalled it himself or he was made to recall), he said I used to enter into transactions with people and I gave respite to the insolvent and did not show any strictness in case of accepting a coin or demanding cash payment. (For these acts of his) he was granted pardon.” [Sahih Muslim, Hadeeth No. 3790]

من نفس عن مؤمن كربة من كرب الدنيا ، نفس الله عنه كربة من كرب يوم القيامة . ومن يسر على معسر ، يسر الله عليه في الدنيا والآخرة . ومن ستر مسلما ، ستره الله في الدنيا والآخرة . والله في عون العبد ما كان العبد في عون أخيه . ومن سلك طريقا يلتمس فيه علما ، سهل الله له به طريقا إلى الجنة . وما اجتمع قوم في بيت من بيوت الله ، يتلون كتاب الله ، ويتدارسونه بينهم ، إلا نزلت عليهم السكينة ، وغشيتهم الرحمة وحفتهم الملائكة ، وذكرهم الله فيمن عنده . ومن بطأ به عمله ، لم يسرع به نسبه

Abu Hurairah (radiallahu anhu) reported Allah’s Messenger (salallahu alaihi wasallam) as saying: “He who alleviates the suffering of a brother out of the sufferings of the world, Allah would alleviate his suffering from the sufferings of the Day of Resurrection, and he who finds relief for one who is hard pressed, Allah would make things easy for him in the Hereafter, and he who conceals (the faults) of a Muslim, Allah would conceal his faults in the world and in the Hereafter. Allah is at the back of a servant so long as the servant is at the back of his brother, and he who treads the path in search of knowledge, Allah would make that path easy, leading to Paradise for him and those persons who assemble in the house among the houses of Allah (masjids) and recite the Book of Allah and they learn and teach the Quran (among themselves) there would descend upon them the tranquillity and mercy would cover them and the angels would surround them and Allah makes a mention of them in the presence of those near Him, and he who is slow-paced in doing good deeds, his (high) descent does not make him go ahead.” [Sahih Muslim, Hadeeth No. 6518]

Sadly, this is something that we have lost in today’s time. We want things to be easy for us but most of us don’t seem to care if things are easy for others or not.

On the contrary, you will see many people going out of their way to make things difficult for other people.

Let me give you two simple examples:

1) A sister has been married for many years but has no children.

Do you think that she feels bad about not having any children? I’m going to take a wild guess and say “yes”.

Now, what happens when people keep saying things like “Any good news?” or “Why don’t you get some treatment?”

Yes, yes, I know. They’re trying to be helpful – but they really aren’t. All they’re doing is depressing the sister further and making things difficult for her.

And so what if a person doesn’t have any children? Aishah (radiallahu anha), the wife of the Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam), did not have any children. This is something that is solely in the hands of Allah.

لِلَّـهِ مُلْكُ السَّمَاوَاتِ وَالْأَرْضِ ۚ يَخْلُقُ مَا يَشَاءُ ۚ يَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ إِنَاثًا وَيَهَبُ لِمَنْ يَشَاءُ الذُّكُورَ

أَوْ يُزَوِّجُهُمْ ذُكْرَانًا وَإِنَاثًا ۖ وَيَجْعَلُ مَنْ يَشَاءُ عَقِيمًا ۚ إِنَّهُ عَلِيمٌ قَدِيرٌ

“To Allah belongs the kingdom of the heavens and the earth. He creates what He wills. He bestows female (offspring) upon whom He wills, and bestows male (offspring) upon whom He wills. Or He bestows both males and females, and He renders barren whom He wills. Verily, He is the All-Knower and is Able to do all things.” [Surah Ash-Shura (42) : 49-50]

However, the fools of today make it sound like being childless is a crime.

What should they have done? Well, keeping silent would have been a good option. They could also have encouraged her to look at the positive side  and suggest that she use her time for good things like dawah, social work, etc.

This way, things are made easier for her.

2) A brother has been recently laid off from work.

What do people do? They nag him about it all the time!

“Hey, did you get another job yet?”

“What are you doing at present?”

“What will you do if you don’t find one soon?”

Because of this, the brother gets even more worried and starts to become a recluse.

What could the people have done? Well, they could have reminded him that Allah is the Provider and encouraged him to use his free time in pursuing knowledge or helping the needy.

This way, they’d be making life easy for him and not making things difficult.

Those were just two simple examples to show you that sometimes we make things difficult for people with our incessant questioning. We need to just mind our own business*.

[*This topic needs a post of its own.]

So, let’s strive to make things easy for people and not make things difficult. Hopefully, this can be something that causes Allah to forgive our sins on the Day of Judgment.

2 Comments Post a comment
  1. Shireen
    Mar 20 2011

    This is so true, so apt and so relevant.

    I’ve seen relatives come to my mom at times who would go like ”Really, why does it only happen with you?” or ‘Why are you the one who gets so many trials and why do you get so afflicted with problems?

    It is almost as if these people were encouraging my mom to complain.. and it happens with me too so many times. khayr, Allah knows best.

    thanks for the reminder, it is helpful for i myself may have fallen in the above scenario sometime

    Reply
    • Umm Muawiyah
      Mar 30 2011

      Assalamu Alaikum.

      Yes, some people do rub it in, unfortunately.

      You’re welcome.

      Reply

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