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June 8, 2011

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My Dream Ramadan…

by Umm Muawiyah

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Assalamu Alaikum.

A girl can dream, right?

So I did just that. What would my ideal Ramadan be like?

Well, some of the things would include:

1) I would get to do itikaf for 10 days (and spend all the time on ibaadah (worship) not chatting).

Why: It’s one of my biggest dreams.

Chances of it occurring: 1%, insha-Allah.

2) I would eat only healthy food.

Why: It’s obvious, isn’t it?

Chances of it occurring: 70%, insha-Allah [because I’ve done it before and I can’t eat oily food anyway.]

3) I would be full of energy.

Why: I need energy to do ibaadah. As simple as that.

Chances of it occurring: I haven’t a clue. It’s been dreadful the last few years. Fasting seems to really zap me of energy.

4) I would spend most of my time with the Quran.

Why: Because this is the month of the Quran.

Chances of it occurring: 30%, insha-Allah. [I came pretty close a few years ago.]

5) I would be able to pray all of the Qiyam al-Layl prayers without my bones creaking.

Why: Do you have any idea how depressing it is to feel like a 90-year old?

Chances of it occurring: 0% if I keep my current routine. 40%, insha-Allah, if I manage to start and continue my planned routine.

6) I would have the proper khushoo (humility) in every prayer especially taraweeh.

Why: Because there’s no better feeling than that. Oh and the reward of the prayer depends on the amount of khushoo you feel.

Chances of it occurring: 5%, insha-Allah [I’m trying to be very, very positive.]

7) No kiddies would come to my masjid so that I (and the rest of the sisters) would be able to pray in peace.

Why: You need to come to my masjid to understand why this is a big dream of mine. [Once the IMAM came up to tell the sisters that he was getting distracted because of the children!!!!!!]

Chances of it occurring: 0.000000000001%, insha-Allah.

8) I would be able to go to the masjid without being asked personal questions by every sister I bump into.

Why: Because I HATE being asked personal questions. From absolutely anybody. I don’t ask (unless there is a valid reason which I mention on the spot) and I expect the same courtesy from others.

Chances of it occurring: 0.00000000000000000000000000001%, insha-Allah.

9) I would talk only when necessary.

Why: Because that’s the sunnah.

Chances of it occurring: 0.0000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000000001%, insha-Allah.

10) Being part of an all-night all-girlie taraweeh.

Why: Someone once mentioned an all-girl taraweeh to me years ago and I still keep dreaming about it.

[My dream (assuming that it is in accordance with the sunnah) is that all of us ladies (in Dubai and nearby obviously) get together in an open area (like a field and with gates so that the men can be locked out) and pray all night long from Isha until just before Fajr. The night would be cool and we would take breaks for short lectures on the tafsir of the ayaat (verses) that we would recite next.

Then all of us would eat suhoor together and then we would all pray Fajr and then remember Allah until sunrise. Then we would leave.

If it’s an all-girlie thingie, we can feel more relaxed and comfortable and also interact with the sister who would be doing the tafsir. Also, I think that this would be a great thing for the sisters who are converts and still single (as Ramadan is a lonely time for many of them). They would feel like part of a big family.]

Chances of it occurring: Hmm… the open field might be a little out there (no pun intended) but a sister with a nice big hall could invite a bunch of us over. All the husbands/fathers would be in the masjids and all the kiddies would be fast asleep upstairs.

[What do all the Dubai/Sharjah sisters think? Any takers?]

So, those are just some of the things that would happen in my dream Ramadan (the key word being “dream”, of course).

Question: What would YOUR dream Ramadan include?

13 Comments Post a comment
  1. R
    Jun 8 2011

    Hmm. Now this is a question and a half. It requires some though. Dream Ramadan?
    To be the strongest woman, body.mind.and soul.

    Thats is all I want. Unattainable? Aiming too high? I dont think so.
    Hard work and much resolve needed: definitley.
    Am I equipped…well yes. Time and energy is on my side, the resolve is lacking though
    Trying to sow the ‘right seeds’. Inshallah.
    I would add to that knowing that I would be going on Hajj would be the best Ramadan of all.
    One can dream right..hey that leads me full circle back to your post. Got to have a dream for it to come true..right?
    Love .R. x

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  2. R
    Jun 8 2011

    Oh and I forgot to add lots and lots of Tahujjud inshallah. Think that would be the supreme ‘workout’ for the soul. x

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  3. R
    Jun 8 2011

    Third thing – well 3 is a magic number. It would also be nice to be in a position to corrected my tajweed to the point I could begin to memorise the Qu’ran – inshallah.

    P.s. if you cannot do itikaf for 10 days – well how about a few hours, maybe a day or two or three. In fact my teacher said everytime you enter the mosque make intention for Itikaf – after all small deeds can be made by great intentions, something or another.

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  4. Heather
    Jun 9 2011

    As-salaamu alaikum sister Umm Muawiyah! After reading that, my dream is to join you all in Dubai for your all-girlie taraweeh. Sounds lovely. Inshaa Allaah you have the opportunity to live your dream. I am a convert here in the United States and this will be my first Ramadan, Alhumdulillaah. Jazaaki Allaahu khaiyran for your time sharing your knowledge with us. Everyday I look forward to reading your posts…you are an inspiration. May Allaah reward you with abundant good, aameen.

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  5. Ayaah
    Jun 9 2011

    Wa alaikum asalaam warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuhu.

    First point: keep dreaming, i.e. making these good intentions, for even if we cannot act upon them in this world, having the sincere intentions bi ithnillah will get you the reward of actually doing the deeds, such is the beauty and ease of this Deen, Alhamdulillah.

    Secondly, we’ve got our current ‘dream’ Ramadan, but then also make the realistic this Ramadaan dream/goals/intentions, what we actually plan on achieving this Ramadaan, write it out, make a plan for it and stick to it bi ithnillah, and then see what’s stopping you from achieving that goal if you’ve entered Ramadaan and left it being no closer to you goal. For example, if one intends to memorise Qur’aan, the best time is Ramadan (or Shaban, in preparation for Ramadan, so by the time you get to Ramadan you’d have memorised more of the Qur’aan, meaning you can recite more of the Qur’aan in your salaah in Ramadan.)

    So, you could memorise a page, even an ayah, each day, or else pick certain surahs that you want to memorise, eg surah Baqarah, and do a portion each day. If you want to pray Qiyaam al layl then you’re going to have to start NOW to prepare, eg pray 2 rakats before sleeping, set your alarm back by 10-15 minutes per day so that you can slowly get used to waking up earlier than Fajr. Start reading a page of Qur’aan per day so you become fluent in your recitation again; if we don’t rcite the Qur’aan, or pray, or fast, all year round, how do we expect to complete the Qur’aan and stay up in qiyaam al layl and fast with ease for 30 days in Ramadaan?

    JazakaAllah khairan my dear sister for writing this… I discovered your site yesterday Alhamdulillah, may Allah reward you with all that is good and raise your station in Jannatul Firdous, Aameen.

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    • R
      Jun 9 2011

      Loving your reply Ayaah, inshallah I will have to print this out. Yes lets make this a splendid Ramadan inshallah – Whoever walks to Allah – he goes running to him in return. You brought this to mind. P.s. Do you blog, or are you just a vistor?

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      • Ayaah
        Jun 11 2011

        Alhamdulillah, I kind of blog/used to, but bi ithnillah I’ve got plans to start again properly soon InshaAllah. There’s a link to my old blog below, but it’s very much a work in progress and doesn’t yet have very much on there except some poetry and a few reminders. Bi ithnillah I’ve made plans for blogging, InshaAllah I’ll see them through and pray Allah blesses me in this and keeps my intentions sincere.

        *Link removed*

        PS: do you blog?

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        • Umm Muawiyah
          Jun 11 2011

          Assalamu Alaikum Sister.

          I had to remove your blog link as it contained a link to a well-known Naqshbandi site. I’m quite particular about my links so please don’t take it personally.

          Insha-Allah, as that link was meant for the sister who inquired about your blog, I’ll email it to her, insha-Allah.

          Jazakillahu kheira.

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          • Ayaah
            Jun 11 2011

            Wa alaikum asalaam warahmatulaahi wabarakaatuhu,
            Barakallahu feek, and jazakallah for sending her the link.

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  6. Ayaah
    Jun 9 2011

    My dream Ramadaan…

    To be on Umrah throughout the entire month of Ramadaan, in the beloved sanctuaries of Makkah and Madinah, praying every salaah in jamaat in the Masjid al Haraam and Masjid al Nabi, with khushoo and with the light of the Qur’aan within my heart, to memorise and understand and reflect and implement and teach and study the tafsir of those ayaat of the Qur’aan…

    I know that Imam ash Shafi’ee rahimahulaah used to complete 60 Qur’aan in Ramadaan, so I want to be able to do that bi ithnillah (or at least the equivalent of a Qur’aan every morning and every evening, with understanding/reflection/implementation ect, that I am able to recite the Qur’aan).

    I would pray Qiyaaam al Layl all throughout the night (and I would love to pray underneath the night sky full of stars in the middle of a desert far away from the rest of the world alone with my Lord (s.w.t), at peace in the beauty of sujood… even though I know that that’s maybe impossible to do (in a desert at least), but honestly, to pray under the starry dark night sky inshaAllah.

    To do itikaaf for the last 10 days of Ramadaan, jsut focused on Ibadah, but in Masjid al HAram or Masjid al Nabi.

    To die in a state of sujood in the Masjid al Nabi, whilst fasting, on Umrah, on a Friday, at Fajr time, in Ramadaan, with the Shahadah upon my lips, to be buried in the position of sujood and in Jannatul Baqi (I think that’s the name of the burial place in Madinah) close to where the Prophet (s.a.w) and the Sahabah, (mainly Sayyidiyaah Fatima (r.a) and Sayyidiayah Aisha (r.a) are buried, and to die upon the path of Islaam, and be blessed with the highest levels of Jannatul Firdous, in the company of the Messenger of Allah (s.a.w) and those I love for the sake of Allah, close to Him (s.w.t), in peace for all eternity…

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  7. Ayaah
    Jun 9 2011

    Moreover, I want those I love to be able to go on Umrah in Ramadaan, and for myself to be able to provide the means for them to do so, and also to provide for someone who has been yearning to go on Umrah to be able to go bi ithnillah in Ramadaan.

    Honestly… to have even just one Ramadaan the way the Prophet (s.aw) had Ramaadan, or was like in Ramaadan, or connected to Ramadaan, and the Sahabah, and the Salaf… because even if we do great deeds, I want ur hearts to be present.

    To pray in a long jamaat behind an imaam who recites beautifully and who will compelte the entire Qur’aan and who understands the verses that they are reciting, to have khushoo in salaah.

    To sleep, following the Sunnah, at Qaylula, if even for a short time.

    To feed the fasting, especially the poor (I’d love to have a soup kitchen type thing for local people to break their fasts and what would be wonderful would be if all date companies (whoever sells dates, or the manufactureres or something) gave a portion of their dates for free as sadaqah to feed the Muslims who are fasting, especially the poor and those in need.

    The people of Jannah will regret the moments they spend in this world that were not in ibaadah or the dhikr of Allah (s.w.t), so I want this Ramadan to be something i do not regret but rejoice for in the Akhirah.

    I want my sins forgiven by the mercy of my Lord and to have them removed from all records and replaced with the best of deeds and be purified from them so that I might start afresh and live a life free from disobedience, in a constant state of ibaadah.

    To give Ramadaan gifts to those I love… a box of ajwa dates, to break their fast. A Qur’aan, that they may use to recite in the month of the Qur’aan. A translation of the Qur’aan, so that they may have some understanding of the verses they recite. A tafseer of the Qur’aan perhaps so they have a deeper understanding. A book of the seerah perhaps so they can reflect upon the life of the Prophet (s.a.w). A prayer mat, to provide a place for them to pray. A tasbeeh, to facilitate ease for them in their dhikr of Allah. A notebook, to record their thoughts, ideas, reflections, imaan moments ect, goals and so on in Ramadaan. Maybe a scarf (or Ittar for my teacher) so that htey can follow the commands of allah and be modest and basically, so that when they are praying and in the ibadaah of Allah they wear it, and as for the ittar, I think its from the sunnah or recommended to wear it/smell nice when the men go to the masjid, so bi ithnillah… Maybe a book of hadith (Imam Nawawi’s 40 hadith) so that they can memorise/learn/implement/teach them to others, especially at the time when a woman is unable to pray, so they still spend their time doing beneficial deeds. And to also give the same to the masjid bi ithnillah.
    To build a well, a masjid, shelter for the poor…

    To give sadaqah as the Sahabh gave sadaqah, as though they had no care for this life and inly lived for the Akhirah.

    To cook (but not for long) and give food to those close to me and my neighbours (and my own family of course) so they can open their iftar with it.

    To pray tahiyyatul wudhu and make wudhu anew before every salaah.

    To make duaa at the times duaas are accepted, i.e. in the last third of the night, after salaah, at the time of breaking one’s fast, between the adhaan and the iqaamah (I think, correct me if I’m wrong)

    Please make duaa for me, to be blessed with the Qur’aan, to be blessed with salaah, and to make duaa for my teachers, that Allah raises their station in Jannah, in Firdous, aameen.

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  8. Anonymous
    Jun 9 2011

    Assalamualaikum.
    I really like the idea…No crying kids in the masjid so we would have more concentration.
    Also : An all girls’ taraweeh

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  9. Faiza
    Jun 9 2011

    I read most of your mails, but this one really caught my attention. My dream Ramadan would have me spend an entire month in Haram with an air conditioned passage from my hotel to the masjid. My food provided for me and no worries about cleaning, cooking and washing the clothes. And importantly my children and husband with me or someone looking after my children who would take care of them like their own. Probability- I don’t think the A/C passage is there so for right now its 0%

    If I get a little more realistic it would be having my grocery, food and cleaning done for me so I could spend quality time on my ibadaa and with my family instead of expanding energy on cooking and cleanup. Probability- 5% as everyone wants moms (my food) and there isn’t anyone to do the grocery. But I am hopefull…..one day.

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