That’s what happens to many a woman when that time of month strikes her at this time of month. They think that Ramadan is over and start to twiddle their thumbs.
Two sisters asked me what a menstruating woman could do during Ramadan so here goes:
So, I’m in a better mood today, alhamdulillah. [Read Part 1 and then you’ll understand what I’m talking about.]
I’ll try not to be catty today (at least not as much as yesterday). Yes, I’ll be Umm Muawiyah and not Umm Meowiyah.
[And I’ve learnt my lesson about writing when I’m half-asleep.]
So, where am I headed with these reminders? The first few were on where we should be going (i.e. aiming for the top), the next few will be on where we are today (i.e. our totally sad state of existence) and the ones after that will be some practical tips on how we can go from being the losers that we are today into being the winners that we want to be.
If we want to be the winners in the hereafter, we don’t just dream about it. We need to be obsessed with attaining it, do dua consistently, make a plan for getting there and then stick to the plan as much as possible. As I keep telling my students: “Paradise is not just going to fall into our laps. We have to earn it.”
So, now that 9 days have passed, let’s continue with our Ramadan assessment:
10) The Month of Istighfaar (seeking forgiveness)
Doing istighfaar is something that is a trait of the true believers.
The whole irony is that the more one increases in good deeds and decreases in sins, the more need one will feel to do istighfaar. And the more one increases in sins and decreases in good deeds, the less need one will feel to do istighfaar.
Yes, I know. You read the title and thought: “WHY is talking about this subject on her blog???”
A question to you: Why SHOULDN’T I be talking about this subject on my blog?
1) This blog is supposed to tackle all the issues surrounding fasting and Ramadan.
And believe me, masturbation is an issue that keeps coming up when people discuss Ramadan.
2) Many people are ignorant of the ruling on masturbation (it’s prohibited by 99% of the scholars).
I was teaching in class once and this issue came up. One of my students asked me if there was an expiation (kaffarah) for masturbating in Ramadan. I was quite surprised by the question and I didn’t have the answer so I said that I would get back to her. So I did and I found the answer.
3) Many people are too shy to ask about such matters.
Allah is not shy of the truth so I wonder why we are?
It’s interesting that there so many people out there who will never discuss these sorts of issues under the pretext of “piety” or “modesty” yet they don’t feel shy spending the whole day backbiting about others. Where did their shame go?? [And yes, I have personally seen many people do this.]
If one is ignorant about a matter, then one needs to ask. Why? Because otherwise one of two things may happen:
1) Making the haram halal
2) Making the halal haram
So ignorance leads people to getting confused about what is lawful and what is prohibited.
Another reason that people don’t want to ask about such sensitive issues is because they don’t want people to scream at them:
“You did WHAT in Ramadan? Don’t you know that it’s HARAAM? Do you want to go to HELL?”
After two years of teaching, I’ve realised that many people want to be able to tell those with some knowledge about their problems or ask sensitive/ embarrassing questions, without being judged or screamed at.
Some might say: “Okay, this stuff is important but is it befitting that a woman talks about such matters?”
Well, I would suggest that you read the chapter on Tahaarah (Purification) in Saheeh Al-Bukhari and Saheeh Muslim. You’ll be surprised at some of the personal stuff narrated by the wives of the Prophet (salallahu alaihi wasallam).
They didn’t do it because they liked it rather they did it because they had a duty.
So, I’m just doing this as a duty. Perhaps someone will benefit from this information.
Remember: There is nothing sick about informing people about the rulings of the shariah.
Here are two links which are enough for those who want to know more:
1) All the fatwas from Islam QA related to this issue: http://www.islamqa.com/en/search2/masturbation/AllWords/t,q,a
2) A brother has collected various articles on this issue. It’s a good collection especially for those who are trying to cure themselves of practicing this habit: http://ibnalhyderabadee.wordpress.com/2006/09/28/masturbation-in-islam-compilation-of-articles-and-fatwas/
Note: This issue is not just related to men. Sadly, many woman are also involved in it.
Comments are closed for this post. You never know if there are any sickos loitering around.
Some people may ask: “Maintain one’s fast in the face of sins? What do sins have to do with fasting? Fasting is about not eating or drinking.”
And this is why you will find many Muslims fasting the whole of Ramadan, only to find that they are the SAME people in Shawwal as they were in Shaban. Why? Because they thought fasting = not eating or drinking.
Here’s an article about this issue that we should all read:
[Here’s a very interesting excerpt:
“Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
As for the thing from one which must abstain when fasting, perhaps you will be surprised if I tell you that the thing from one which must abstain when fasting is sin. A person must abstain from sin when fasting because this is the primary aim of fasting, because Allaah, may He be blessed and exalted, says (interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Observing As-Sawm (the fasting) is prescribed for you as it was prescribed for those before you, that you may become Al-Muttaqoon (the pious)”
Yes indeed. It’s time for a rant.
So, if you’ll permit me…
Ramadan is the Month of Fitness, not the Month of Fatness.
Ramadan is the Month of Piety, not the Month of Party.
Ramadan is the Month of Fasting, not the Month of Food.
Ramadan is the Month of Abstinence, not the Month of Stuffing-Yourself-Until-You-Drop-Dead.
Ramadan is the Month of Wiping Out your sins from your book of deeds, not the Month of Writing More Sins to your book of deeds.
Ramadan is the Month of the Quran. And no, that does not mean taking a dusty Mushaf off your shelves after 10 months and 20 days and reading it without tajweed, understanding or application.
Ramadan is the Month of Starting Afresh – which means starting a new life until the end of your life, not a new life until Shawwal.
Ramadan is the Month of Silence, not the Month of Socialising (Hello Iftar Parties Full of Gheebah. I’m talking to YOU.)
Ramadan is the Month of Sisterhood (and Brotherhood), not the Month of Cat fights. (Hello Sisters in the Masjid. I’m talking to YOU).
Ramadan is the Month of Giving in Charity, not the Month of Being a Cheapskate.
Ramadan actually lasts for a whole Month, not just the 27th night.
Ramadan actually lasts from Fajr until Fajr, not from Fajr until Maghrib.(Hello Sheesha Addicts and Majlis Tent Goers. I’m talking to YOU.)
Ramadan is the Month where the Gates of Paradise are opened and the Gates of Hell are closed. So why exactly do we behave as if the Gates of Hell are open and the Gates of Paradise are closed?
Ramadan is the Month where we pray more, not the (only) Month where we pray.
Ramadan is the Month of Manners. You’d think people could at least try for a measly 29-30 days to ACT nice???
Ramadan is the Month of Smiling, not the Month of Snarling.
Ramadan is the Month of Tawheed (worshipping Allah alone), not the Month of Shirk (ascribing partners to Him). How truly sad it is that nobody knows what Tawheed is, when it is the Right of Allah and the Key to Paradise.
Ramadan is the Month where we increase our presence in the Masjids, not the Month where we increase our presence in the Restaurants.
Ramadan is the Month where we Seek Forgiveness, not the Month where we Seek Food.
Ramadan is the Month of Activity, not the Month of Sleep.
Ramadan is the Month of Striving, not the Month of Snoring.
Ramadan is the Month where we go the extra mile to please Allah, not where we go the extra mile to please our stomachs.
Ramadan is the Month of Increasing in Prayers and Khushoo (humility) not the Month of Increasing in Pakoras and Kushari.
Ramadan is the Month of Dawah to Allah, not the Month of Dawah to your Iftar Party.
Ramadan is the Month of Health, which means that manufacturers of cooking oil should NOT be making profits at this time of year.
Ramadan is the Month of Improving your (hereafter) CV, not the Month of Befriending your TV.
Ramadan is the Month of Atoning (for your sins), not the Month of Moaning and Groaning (about the hunger, ibadaah, etc).
Ramadan is the Month where we strive to get mentioned by Allah to His Angels, not the Month where we strive to get mentioned by your Iftar party guests (“Ooh, what a fantastic host you are!”).
Ramadan is the Month where we stand in rows waiting for the Salah to begin, not the Month where we stand in lines waiting to order the food.
Ramadan is the Month where we visit the Masjids, not the Month where we visit the Majlises.
Ramadan is where we behave NORMALLY (where we act likes the slaves of Allah). It’s the rest of the year where we behave ABNORMALLY (where we act like slaves of this world).
Brother Abu Uwais was right. We need a Ramadan.
Okay, I just had to get that out of my system.
Yes, I know. That was nasty but it was the sad truth wasn’t it?
We’ll all strive to do better this year, insha-Allah.
Been waiting for Ramadan Prep lectures (live ones I mean)? Well, so have I. Finally, everyone has woken up, alhamdulillah (with 6 days to go).
People keep complaining that “we have no lectures here (in the UAE) “.
We have lectures in Arabic, Urdu and English not to mention Chinese, Tagalog, Malayalam, etc. Sadly, Dubai, Sharjah and Ajman are really underrated by many when it comes to seeking Islamic knowledge. There’s so much going on. Sadly, most people are unaware of this.
So, what’s happening before Ramadan?
[Note: There’s probably more stuff going on than mentioned in this post. The really awful thing about us here in the Emirates is that when the time comes for us to share information, we’re as slow as the good old days when they used pigeons. It’s a total disgrace.]
For those in Ajman (and Sharjah), there’s a lecture TONIGHT in Preston University:
For those in Dubai, the Jumeirah Islamic Learning Centre (JILC) has a lecture series TONIGHT and tomorrow (registration is required):
The Messenger Muhammad (pbuh) said:
*Virtues of Ramadan *Fiqh of fasting with Q &A
*Reaping the Opportunities of Ramadan * The excellence of Lailatul Qadr
Join us on the 4th & 5th August, 2010 for an open forum & much more
with our esteemed speakers, Inshallah.
Limited capacity 50 seats. Early registration preferred and a must.
For those who wish to educate their kiddies about Ramadan, JILC also has a special series for them:
** The Amazing Ramadhan
Workshop for Kidz**
Let your children learn about the importance of this special and holy month of Ramadhan and the role
it plays in our lives as Muslims.
This Saturday, Inshallah, 7th of August, 2010
From 10.00 am. -12.00 noon
Boys aged 7 – 10 and Girls aged 7 – 13
Conducted by talented and experienced primary teachers
Registration is a must via email or a phone call to 04 3949461
Also for those in Dubai, Brother Zaid Patel will be conducting quite few lectures starting from TONIGHT:
Al Qusais Masjid (near Karachi city restaurant)
Friday 6th August 8:30 – 11:30 AM
(Friday Night Reflections)
Friday 6th Augst 7:30 – 10:30 PM
Saturday 7th August Maghrib to I’sha
Karama Grand Masjid (behind Lulu centre)
*Separate seating for sisters
• “Financial Transactions in Islam and Islamic Banking” (Duration: 20 hours),
• “Dawah Training Program” (Duration: 72 hours),
• besides training workshops on 15 other topics
And finally, last but definitely not last, our very own Sister Eman will be giving us a Ramadan Prep talk :
[For those of who in Dubai who have no clue who Sister Eman is, let me introduce her: She’s a very good sister, masha-Allah, who gives very heart-warming lectures based on the Quran and the Sunnah. We can all learn something from her, both with regards to knowledge and character. If you think I’m exaggerating, then attend one of her lectures and see for yourself.]
[Obviously, this lecture is for sisters only.]
[Click on the above link for location details.]
If anyone has any more information about lectures by Ahlus Sunnah, then please let me know.