Well, I’m not really one for dua requests but this piece of news really took the wind out of my sails.
Who’s the dua for? Well, let me summarise her story first so that you understand:
She’s someone who has lost two of her three children (both in their early twenties). They died within two years of each other.
The first (a boy; I knew him in university) died in a car accident. The second (a girl) died of cancer.
As for the third child, he is alive, alhamdulillah but she is being tested with him in other ways. (Sorry, it’s personal so I will not elaborate.)
I was supposed to meet her many years ago through a common friend yet ironically I ended up meeting her quite recently through a sister that I met on this blog!
You’d think that with two children having died that she would be a shadow of her former self. On the contrary, she was a jolly woman who gives Islamic classes. She praised Allah for aiding her through her trials and never uttered any words of blame.
When I saw her, I finally understood a statement that I had heard about gratitude to Allah showing on one’s limbs.
Today, she is facing another test. Her husband was diagnosed with cancer a few days ago, and will have an operation in two weeks.
I was shocked and both the sisters (the one that was supposed to introduce us and the one that eventually did do that) were speechless with horror.
I request all of you to PLEASE pray for her husband’s swift recovery and to pray that things are made easy for her.
Please don’t pray like you’re praying for two strangers, rather pray as though you are praying for your own friends or family members.
May Allah cure her husband and make things easy for her. Ameen.
Let’s declare a moratorium on the perpetually sad faces, shall we?
If we smile, we feel better, get to cheer up others and perform an act of charity to boot.
So, smile away!
“Ruling”, you ask? There’s a “ruling” on becoming angry when one’s life is in shambles?
Actually, yes, there is.
I’ll talk a bit more about this in the Common (but Dangerous) Mistakes Series, insha-Allah.
For now, here’s the mind-blowing article: Ruling on Becoming Angry when Afflictions occur by Shaikh Ibn Uthaimeen (rahimahullah).
So, I’m in a better mood today, alhamdulillah. [Read Part 1 and then you’ll understand what I’m talking about.]
I’ll try not to be catty today (at least not as much as yesterday). Yes, I’ll be Umm Muawiyah and not Umm Meowiyah.
[And I’ve learnt my lesson about writing when I’m half-asleep.]
So, where am I headed with these reminders? The first few were on where we should be going (i.e. aiming for the top), the next few will be on where we are today (i.e. our totally sad state of existence) and the ones after that will be some practical tips on how we can go from being the losers that we are today into being the winners that we want to be.
If we want to be the winners in the hereafter, we don’t just dream about it. We need to be obsessed with attaining it, do dua consistently, make a plan for getting there and then stick to the plan as much as possible. As I keep telling my students: “Paradise is not just going to fall into our laps. We have to earn it.”
So, now that 9 days have passed, let’s continue with our Ramadan assessment:
10) The Month of Istighfaar (seeking forgiveness)
Doing istighfaar is something that is a trait of the true believers.
The whole irony is that the more one increases in good deeds and decreases in sins, the more need one will feel to do istighfaar. And the more one increases in sins and decreases in good deeds, the less need one will feel to do istighfaar.