بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم
I was thinking about the areas that we mess up in the most during this great month. What are the things that we could (and should) do that would help us improve our Ramadan?
1) We can (and should) sleep less.
Yes, yes, I know. You might say: “Hey most of us sleep less during this month!”
I beg to differ. I think that people snooze more in this month (or at least that’s what the people in this part of the world do) than they do outside of it.
This is NOT the month of “catching up on our sleep”.
2) We can (and should) stop wasting our time with useless activities, and instead focus on our ibaadah (worship).
Want to surf the Internet? Well, do it after Ramadan.
Part of the reason that we waste our time is that we have deceived ourselves into thinking that fasting is only achieved by staying hungry and as we are staying hungry, we are in a state of worship.
Well, no, there’s much more to fasting than just starving.
3) We can (and should) eat healthy food.
Yes, we can. Really.
Just stand in front of the mirror and repeat it a hundred times. Mass repetition is known to help the brain accept an idea, no matter how impossible it sounds.
[Oh and we can (and should) eat less as well. That would really end many a woman’s kitchen nightmares….]
4) We can (and should) stop fighting with each other in the masjid.
Completely silly question: Is there any particular reason that we all single out Ramadan for masjid fights……..?
5) We can (and should) take it hour by hour and not think too far ahead.
One of the main reasons that many of us flunk in Ramadan is that we go all out in the first few days and then fizzle out early. Instead, we need to take things step by step.
Question to all of you (if you’re still around. Everyone seems to have disappeared?): What other things are there that we can (and should) do in order to have a great Ramadan?
Yes, another “common mistakes article”. We seem to have a lot of these, don’t we?
And what happens? We still continue to make these same mistakes!
Why does that happen, you ask? Well, I’m not sure but if I had to guess, I would say:
1) We read these articles assuming that other people make these mistakes, thereby completely forgetting to take ourselves into account.
2) We read it and realise that we make the same mistakes. However, we forget this when the situation arises, leading us to make that mistake.
What can we do?
Well, I had written a post about a Ramadan Journal. We can summarise these lists (we can exclude those that we definitely never do) and write them down in that journal. After this, all we need to do is go over the summaries every few days in Ramadan. I think we could also do this for all the Ramadan articles and lectures.
So, we can all start with the following article:
Okay, this one isn’t a lecture either. It’s a Baba Ali video.
The brother makes some excellent points in it (although for us here in the Emirates and in other Muslim countries, the moon sighting wars don’t exist, alhamdulillah).
PS. The “Imam racing through Taraweeh leaving followers unable to understand the recitation” scenario happened to me once. It was in university. He went so fast that I had no clue what he was saying!
Okay, this isn’t a lecture. It’s just a short video which hits the nail right on the head.
Eating too fast and too much at iftar
Driving recklessly to the masjid and blocking cars in the parking lot
Getting angry quickly toward the end of the day or end of the month
Being generous to strangers but not even talking to relatives and in-laws
Rushing through taraweeh just to complete the Qur’an in 30 days
Fasting just to feel hungry, without involving your mind and heart
Fasting from food only but indulging in haram activities
Fasting by day and sinning by night
Observing Ramadan as a cultural festival without Islamic knowledge
Fasting but not praying
* May Allah reward all those who contributed to this top-10 project. Oh, not contributing by practicing bad habits, but participated in brainstorming this list or recording it…
Insha-Allah, I’ll write more in the future about Habit No. 1, because it is a serious mistake.