Didn’t we do this yesterday, you ask?
Erm no. That was an article on anger management. Today, we have a lecture on that topic.
[Please excuse me for sounding like a KG teacher.]
This is a really important topic as anger is a major cause of so many of our problems.
So, here’s a lecture for those who wish to improve their temperament:
Anger Management by Muhammad Alshareef (Download)
I haven’t listened to the lecture yet so I can’t comment on it.
However, I would like to point out two things to those who are trying to work on this issue:
1) Find the root cause of your anger.
You need to solve the problem and not the symptoms.
WHY do you get angry?
2) Remember that Islam is the cure for all emotional and psychological diseases.
Islam was what cured me of my dreadful temper. It was like I had a fire within me and Islam just extinguished it. There’s no fire now, alhamdulillah, just peace.
You know one of the most amazing things about our magnificent religion?
It tells us the best way to go about doing….well, absolutely everything.
Some people find this to be “burdensome”. [When did sheer excellence become “burdensome”….?]
To such people, I say: Okay, stick to your lousy way of doing things. We’ll follow the way of excellence.
As for those who want to pursue excellence, marhaba!
What do we start with first?
Well, what about how to sleep in the proper way?
Being an insomniac, I’ve noticed that if one’s sleep gets messed up, then it starts going downhill from there. Sleep problems could lead to missing Fajr, which leads to a bad start to the day.
On the other hand, if one sleeps properly and moderately, then one can get up early, for Fajr and also for Tahajjud. After this, one is fresh and ready to go. The whole day starts on a high note.
So, how does one sleep in the “proper” way?
Well, it’s however the Messenger of Allah (salallahu alaihi wasallam) practiced it , of course.
Here’s a lecture dedicated to discussing his sleeping habits:
In the Middle of the Night: The Sleeping Habits of the Messenger of Allah (salallahu alaihi wasallam) by Muhammad Alshareef (Download)
Ah, yes. Time management.
I have a sneaky suspicion that most of the planet has done a lot of reading on this topic and that very few of them have actually been able to implement what they read.
Still, try and try again until you get it.
So, here is another (your zillionth?) resource on this topic: a very nice lecture that gives us the Islamic perspective on time management.
I haven’t finished listening to it yet but so far so good.
Time Management by Muhammad Alshareef (Download)
Indeed, Allah is the Best of Planners. We all know it but sadly we keep forgetting it. That’s why we need to keep reminding each other.
Many times we look around and say “Why is this happening to me?”, perhaps only to say years later, “Alhamdulillah, that was the best thing to happen to me!”.
Why the change in tone? Because when the event is taking place, we don’t have all the information and the pieces of the puzzle haven’t been put together yet. However, after the dust settles, the picture is quite clear and we finally understand what happened.
Here’s a heart warming story by a brother that took place in Hajj. Let’s all reflect over how it all worked out so wonderfully well at the end.
The Best Planner
by Muhammad Alshareef
As we look over the crowds at Hajj, we are overwhelmed by the number of people that come there to worship Allah. Throughout Hajj, we find ourselves similarly overwhelmed by the sheer number of lessons that we learn on our journey – lessons of patience, compassion, and humility. Every corner you turn, or any spot you can find to sit, has the potential to mold a Hajji for better or worse. Sharing our experiences with each other helps us reflect on what we have learned, and may also have the invaluable effect of encouraging our fellow Muslims to perform Hajj.
Here’s a story from my Hajj, which truly showed me that Allah is the best of planners:
During one Hajj a man in our group became very ill while we were staying in the tent city of Mina. As we sat down to dinner he began shivering uncontrollably. We stopped our dinner and made du’a for him. Soon, paramedics were called and carried him to the hospital on a stretcher.
Yes, the title made me laugh too.
You’ll have to read the article to read what he meant. That’s even funnier.
by Muhammad Alshareef
Sahl Ibn Sa’d radi Allahu anhu narrates that RasulAllah sal Allaahu alayhi wa sallam said:
“In Jannah, there is a gate called Ar-Rayyan: a door which the Saa’imoon will enter from, no one else except them. It will be announced, ‘Where are the Saa’imoon?’ and the Saa’imoon will stand. No one except them will enter from the gate called Rayyan.”
Have you ever heard of a weekend warrior? They are employees who sit in cubicles and relax at a coffee station, weighed down with donuts all week long. Then on the weekend, they rip off their suits bearing their Reebok gear underneath and spend the entire weekend playing basketball, hang gliding, and mountain climbing. What happens? They break their knees, pull a dozen muscles, and are hospitalized on Monday.
It’s that time of the year again.
Which time of year, you ask?
The time of year where we wake up and realise that one third of Ramadan has ended and we have nothing to show for it.
We’re so used to this happening, aren’t we? You’d think that we would have figured out the solution by now.
Here’s a good article that should motivate us not to let Ramadan slip away from us again. He also has some nice pointers at the end.
Before the Sand Slips Away
by Muhammad Alshareef
Hasn’t there come upon man a period of time when they were nothing remembered (Al-Insaan 76/1).
Imagine that you are four years old and on the beach. The camp leader has told you that you have five minutes to build a great castle. “Quickly,” your three-year-old Ameer tells you, “the sand here is too soft. Run closer to the water and get better sand!”
Off you run and grab, with your tiny hands, as much sand as you can hold. But, as you run back, plop, plop, plop, you feel the sand slipping through your fingers and you can do nothing about it. In your haste, all the sand has slipped away. Bang. The competition is over. This is the analogy of our lives; this is the analogy of our time in Ramadan.
Outstanding Ramadan, you say? Of course. Why would you want it to be anything less than outstanding?
First step towards an outstanding Ramadan: do dua.
Second step: remember that even if your first few days suck, you still have the rest of Ramadan! It ain’t over until the moon for Shawwal is sighted.
For more on how to have an “Outstanding” Ramadan, you have to listen to this lecture:
[Note: The brother mentions “good intentions”. What is an intention? It’s not just a thought. It means that if you intend to do a thing, and the doors open for you to be able to do that thing, then you will actually go ahead and do it.]
Towards an Outstanding Ramadan by Muhammad Alshareef