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Three things…

Assalamu Alaikum.

What “three things”, you ask?

Well, I was planning to tell you….

You know how we always have this “my life sucks so much, how do I start rectifying it” sort of attitude? We always think: “I will be a great Muslim one day” but we don’t know where to start.

Well, I think we could summarise all the “self-development” points mentioned in the Quran and  the Sunnah into three main categories:

1) Improve our ibaadah

– That includes prayers, charity, fasting, reciting the Quran, reciting the required adhkar (remembrances), doing dua etc.

– It also includes seeking knowledge.

– It also includes actions of the heart such as tawakkul (relying upon Allah), fearing Allah, loving Allah, etc

2) Decrease sinning

Yes, we have to do this. Otherwise, we’ll just cancel out our good deeds with the evil deeds!

– Avoid all major sins. If we stumble, we need to repent immediately.

– Avoid minor sins as much as possible. We need to try to recite the adhkar that expiate for our minor sins.

Note #1: What are the major sins? In order to avoid them, we need to know what  they are.*

[*Want a series on this? After I finish all the pending ones, of course, insha-Allah….]

Note #2: Major sins are not expiated by doing good deeds. That’s just for minor sins. Major sins are only expiated through repentance, and repentance is not accepted if you do not stop doing that major sin.

3) Be helpful to those around us.

– Includes displaying good manners and controlling our tongues.

– Includes social work of any kind.

– Includes dawah as well.

How do we start with making our “great Muslim” vision come true? Well, we could try to improve in each category step by step.

Okay, I should point out that this is the way that I categorise it for myself as it’s easier to think “I need to work on three things” rather than “I need to work on a hundred things”. This is my personal approach so I wouldn’t want anyone to think that I was quoting a scholar.

I’ll explain why I categorised the points in this way in a future post, insha-Allah.

What do you think? Is it an easy way? Or are there some errors in it?

Comments are welcome.*

[*I always say that but nobody comments.]


Project “Recover Ramadan” – Step 2: Realise that you can change

Assalamu Alaikum.

[Okay, you voted. And apparently, most of you want short posts on a daily basis. Alright then.

Starting from tomorrow, insha-Allah, I’ll be posting twice a day: once for the Recover Ramadan posts and another for the regular posts. However, on some days, I’ll just have the Recover Ramadan posts. Hey, Tita Umm Muawiyah needs a break too.]

So, how do get back into the Ramadan Routine of Righteousness?

Step 1 was to realise that your iman was in shambles.

Step 2 is to realise that you can change.

Huh, you say?

Erm, yes. I’ve met many sisters who seem to doubt their ability to actually become righteous. And this of course is from Shaytaan (the devil) because he wants to defeat us before we even begin!

Reformation starts from the heart and then it affects the limbs. If the heart does not believe that it can be more obedient to Allah, then do you think the tongue and the limbs will behave in a righteous manner?

So, what do we do? First we accept that we need to change. Second, we need to accept that we can change, insha-Allah.

[Hope this was “short” enough for the daily Recover Ramadan posts. Or do you want them to be shorter?]